Your neighbour stresses you out and you feel anxious when you see their car pull up because you know they make you feel stressed.

 You know you don't like driving to new places, or not knowing the train routes or how to buy the ticket in the first place!

You know that when you wake up you get that sick feeling and it means you'll have a rubbish day.

You know when your heart starts pounding you'll go bright red and it feels like you're going to die!

You know that you're a worrier and it runs in the family

You know you drink far too much and that makes you feel even worse about yourself.

So I asked someone who KNEW what I DIDN'T know.

Sure I was a little nervous to ask. What if they laughed at me, what if I couldn't do what they recommended and what if I didn't WANT to do what they recommended? Was I even ready to experience that next level out of my comfort zone????

If you don't take different actions you'll never get different results.

And if you only know what you know how can you possibly take the different actions, you have to know that information first to use it. Am I messing with your head yet?

So I stepped up, I was brave and I asked my coach for his advice and an eating plan to help lift my butt for the summer. I then put that straight into action.

Anxiety Is Hard

I know what you're thinking, "But that's different, anxiety is harder, and it can be crippling." And I agree! Anxiety is hard and it can be crippling but there are things in life that if you were to know, would affect your entire life, including any anxiety and any training or eating problems.

So here they are,

The 3 Reasons Why What You Know Already Is Holding You Back

1. You know your version of the truth

What you know is your beliefs and experience and not necessarily the truth. What you don't know is there are such things as limiting beliefs, these are beliefs that are created and reinforced which do not help us to move on from things such as anxiety. It can be very hard to spot our own limiting beliefs, and much easier for others to point them out for us (because they don't feel like beliefs they feel like the truth).

Let's take that annoying neighbour. You know they make you feel stressed, you know it's their fault you have anxiety. What if that was a belief and not the truth of the situation? What if there were a different way to look at it that is way more empowering for you? Who's responsible for how you feel? Just in case you are not sure, it's you, you are responsible for yourself and that includes how you feel. The raw truth is, you have decided that they stress you out (yes their behaviour may be unacceptable, but you decide how you cope with that behaviour). I know, it can be hard to comprehend. You only know what you know, right?

2. Your Thoughts come naturally, you're not trying to worry

You know your thoughts are not helping the anxiety, you might even beat yourself up because you know this. Yet you can't quite manage to stop or change those thoughts, which creates extra pressure and more overthinking of what's wrong with you. You know you have irrational thoughts and most of what you think will not come true, but that doesn't help either.

What you don't know yet, is that your thoughts are created by your thinking styles.

We all have thinking styles, or cognitive distortions if you want the technical term. It is these thinking styles that we use to translate the world around us. So if you wake with a sick feeling in your tummy, instead of taking a minute to think what may have caused that feeling, or simply ignoring it as it may go away after you've had a wee, no, you immediately think the worst. It's because I'm anxious, it will be there all day and my day is now ruined! 

This is a combination of black-and-white thinking, focusing on the negative and catastrophising, all very common thinking styles seen in people who suffer from anxiety.

3. You know it feels really bad when anxiety or panic hits

Because you know anxiety feels really bad you naturally want to avoid that feeling. So you may start to decline activities, take different routes that avoid that bridge or U-turn, or decide that staying home will be more relaxing than socialising with your friends. 

This is how your life starts to shrink and people become agoraphobic (fear of leaving your home) but it also reinforces to your mind that these activities should be avoided and when they are you feel better. This is keeping you stuck in anxiety as you get less and less resilient to feeling uncomfortable.

ME!  Pick me!

 

Just for proof that I do take advice and action on that advice, here's me today at the gym implementing the new technique that I was told to do to help tone up my butt.

 

                                                                                                              

 

If you are ready to take your well-being to the next level, overcome your anxiety, learn which thinking styles you are using and how to stop panic attacks for good, contact me to book your complimentary call. This is a time for you to tell me what you are experiencing, what you've tried and what you would like to achieve. If I feel we are a match to work together I will ask permission to explain how. No obligations, no hard sell just the opportunity to get the life you deserve with the knowledge I have to share.

Simply, click the link to get in touch. Talk to Tammy

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Take care.

 

Tammy 

Anxiety and Panic Specialist

www.tammyrolfe.com